I read an article by Patia Braithwaite about personal growth and acceptance. There were a few long quotes within her article that really moved me.
She says that it’s okay to not know exactly where you’re headed next in life. There will always be a reason to stop and catch your breath. It’s okay to be present with what’s broken in your life.
“I’m perpetually split open by the expansiveness of life, but no one ever told me it was okay to be broken. No one told me that sometimes crying is the best way to proceed. No one gives us permission to keep asking big questions: How can we move closer to one another in a world that moves so fast? Centrifugal force can make hermits of us all. They don’t tell us the biggest truth: If we’re not broken open by all the beauty and pain that surrounds us, we’re probably not living most fully.
There will always be a reason to stop and catch your breath. There is always something of which to be in awe. If no one has told you, allow me to be the first: it’s okay to be present with what’s broken in your life. It’s okay to breathe into what you’d rather avoid. It’s okay to befriend the unpleasantness. You’re not the only person who’s felt hurt. It’s okay to not know exactly where you’re headed next. It’s okay to be so unhappy that you can’t get out of bed. You’re not alone. Let these words curl up beside you and help you cope. It’s okay to feel stagnant, to know where you’d like to go, but deeply question your next move. We all get where we’re going in due time. It’s okay to sometimes feel trapped by the life you’ve made; even if it’s a life you love. It’s okay to avoid old friends because you can’t tell them the truth—that your life isn’t as perfect as Facebook posts make it seem. None of us have easy solutions. We are all nursing some form of our own brokenness.
We’re all simply wounded healers, doing the best we can.”
I’m a fixer. Learning how to be okay with being broken is something that I am working on. But how do you practice being okay? Right now, I’m focusing on the expansiveness of life that Patia mentions in her article.